Approaching 300

I’m still here! Still sober 🙂

I was taking the magnesium tablets for a while, but at the beginning of May, things weren’t going well. I had a weekend of crying on and off for two days, and not much in my life felt worthwhile. I was terrified of depression spilling over into work. No way am I getting into that awful place of having to take time off etc etc. I’ve been there before, and my job means too much to me now, to let that happen again.
So I had to do something – I was pretty desperate. Drink? I seriously thought about it, but I didn’t actually drink. I refuse to give up!! I found a card of Fluoxetine in with all my nail varnish (?) from a while back. It was a year out of date, but like I said, I felt like I had to do something. It was a Sunday, and the next day was Bank Holiday Monday. At the best of times I can only get a Doctor’s appointment for a weeks’ time, so I googled ‘taking out of date medication’, and suitably reassured, down the hatch it went…
I booked the appointment, saw the Doctor a week later, and said I would like to try the anti depressants. So she prescribed me some, and suggested counselling too. Apparently it’s free – you just self refer on a website. I haven’t actually booked in yet but I do plan to.

So that’s as far as I’ve got, really. The medication hasn’t really kicked in yet, but I’m glad I’m taking it. I’m determined that it’s one element of my continuing ‘recovery’, if you like. I realised last week that there are certain things – beliefs about myself, insecurities and other things – that maybe don’t serve me all that much anymore. Like maybe, habits I’ve developed thinking that they help me avoid anxieties or whatever, but in actual fact they do nothing of the sort. Or beliefs I have about myself that aren’t really true.
I googled ‘overcoming insecurity’ and some of the things I found were a bit rubbish to be honest, but there was one site which looked very interesting. ‘Pathway to Happiness’ describes how we compare ourselves with our image of perfection, and come up with ‘I’m not good enough’ thoughts when the two don’t match up. Somehow, even just reading that basic explanation of the process seemed to help. So yes, things are looking up 🙂

Also, on Friday night/Saturday morning, I got one of those calls. You know, when you’re the only person who can help? It was 1:30am and I was in bed asleep. My husband had gone out with his mates and not been able to get a taxi home. So he called me and very apologetically asked for a lift!! I was their only hope, apparently. I had sober superpowers! I was so glad I was able to help out. I didn’t have any right to feel annoyed, because I’ve been in a similar situation so many times. I got dressed and drove the ten minutes or so to go and get them. They were very drunk! One fell asleep in the back, another was eating kebab and pizza and saying how much he’d like to see me out in the pub again (even if I’m not drinking, he reassured me) and my husband was saying how grateful they all were, and that he’d buy me chocolates and flowers. Which haven’t actually materialised, I might add! So we got back around 2 o clock. I know it wasn’t as dramatic as going to collect a distressed child or saving someone from something terrible, but I was really proud that I was able to help. That for once, I could be relied upon, and was useful to someone.

So I’m approaching day 300 with a slightly different perspective. I feel like I’m coming out the other side of the slump, finally. It has lasted a long time. Maybe I needed to go through it, in order to find out what I can be doing to help myself? To make me realise just where I am powerless and where I am powerful. I’m looking forward to whatever happens next!


5 thoughts on “Approaching 300”

  1. Hi Waking Up,
    Sorry to hear that things are not easy peasy for you. And good on you for getting help.
    Since you are a person who is into the nutrients approach I was wondering if you had seen the ‘Depression free, naturally’ version of Doctor Joan’s book. I put the link in here. I assume there are other books like it online too.
    Hugs and love,
    xx, Feeling

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Hi Feeling! Yes I have got the Depression Free, Naturally book, and that was part of the reason why I tried magnesium. I was about to search for a tryptophan supplement, but found mixed information about whether or not it’s good for you on the net. Then I considered taking spirulina, but everything got a bit too much, and I decided I needed antidepressants instead.
      I’m not very good at sticking to a plan, nutritionally, either. I wonder whether I am mildly hypoglycaemic just because of my strong attachment to sugar – I never seem to have the inclination to quit!
      Anyway, I’m still sober, and feeling better than I was.
      Hugs and love back to you 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

      1. ‘I never seem to have the inclination to quit.’ Ghegheghe…. that should ring a bell. 😉
        I have no clue on what keeps depression away, for me it is: taking care of me, getting exercise, meeting people, doing fun stuff until it catches on. Omega 3, and multi-vitamin B. But that could be different for everybody. Not sure.
        Hope you will feel better soon.
        xx, Feeling

        Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Dancing Your Way To Fertility

Had enough of hearing ‘no you are not pregnant?’ The information you need to beat infertility…a hand to hold on your hardest of days.

The IVF Survivor

Staying sane and hopeful after long term IVF and loss

Lovin · Life · Fully

Finding the everyday joys in God's creative plan for us

infertile me.

Infertility: The journey, emotions and ramblings

Finding a Sober Miracle

A woman's quest for one year of sobriety

A life without peas

An IVF journey

The Unplanned Plan

Documenting this crazy IVF journey

Southern Fried Ovaries

The story of a Mississippi couple trying to conceive

The Stickles

Tales of marriage, twins, infertility, and other everday hilarity

The IVF Piggy Bank

Test Tube Trials and In Vitro Victories

Helping the Stork

One couple's journey of high AMH and PCOS

Are We There Yet

a nerd girl's infertility journey



then i look up at the sky...

coffee, wine, and infertility. just a little blog about my life

The Thin Place

The Thin Place, Where We Experience the Sufficiency of Grace

Different Shores

Observations about middle-aged life without kids


The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still. -Exodus 14:14


Our everlasting journey

Tales of a 30 Year Old Nothing

Navigating my thirties is not what I thought it would be

Waiting for Baby Bird Ministries

infertility, miscarriage and pregnancy loss


Living with Premature Ovary Failure in my 30s

Finding My Freedom

getting rid of the booze...

The Everyday Addict

Hi! I’m Ashley and I am just your average everyday addict! Recovery is a new adventure that is hard, but it CAN also be fun and exciting! I created this blog to share my experience with addiction, my perspective as a youth in recovery, and the joys of my recovery. Clean & sober since 10/27/2008!

%d bloggers like this: