That’s how I’m feeling at the moment. I haven’t re – committed to another year or whatever, and I have felt a few pangs lately, when ‘enjoying’ alcohol seems to be the thing to do.

We went away for a night over the weekend, to Moelfre, Wales, where they had a lifeboat open day. It was mainly for Mr W’s birthday and I didn’t know if I’d enjoy it or not. When we arrived, the little town was full to the brim with people, most of whom seemed to be drinking beer. I immediately felt uncomfortable. Stupidly, I hadn’t anticipated it would be a ‘drinking event’. But after a while, I realised that no, it wasn’t actually a drinking event and the vast majority of people weren’t drinking at all. So I just got on with having a good time and it was fine.

It did seem to trigger an ‘it’s not fair’ train of thought though. I even thought about having a glass of wine with dinner in the evening, then decided against it. Which I was very happy about the next day! No point ruining such an achievement on a whim. I decided to think about 400 days as a possible target. Then think about drinking again after that. But that idea has sort of lost its appeal already… The reasons why not drinking is the best thing to do are now helpfully returning to the forefront of my mind.

What I do need to do, as ever, is put more effort into treats and rewards. I always struggle with this. Our house is currently all turned upside down, it’s like living in a building site! I know it will be so worth it when it’s done, but in the meantime I’m not very settled. I find it hard to relax and wind down, and that is what treating myself is all about, for me.

Plus, Mr W’s operation is looming. He has been telling more people because obviously he will be off work for a while afterwards. Everyone is supportive, but some people have stories about friends of theirs that they want to tell. ‘It didn’t work for so and so, they ended up paying 25 grand for IVF’ etc etc. As you can imagine, I’m finding this less than helpful. I just want us to be left alone to get on with dealing with everything that goes along with the procedure. I do let myself think occasionally of all things baby – related.  To me it feels right to be hopeful,  if only a little, only in my mind.

So yes, sober is still the way forward. Life is changing all the time, and the unknowns are so much nearer to being known, whatever the outcome might be, and I need to be able to deal with all of that.  Which would not be possible if I was drinking.


One thought on “Vulnerable”

  1. That’s always important. I often think everyone is drinking, only to look around an see most people aren’t, or are having a drink.
    Anyone obviously drinking to excess stands out. I cringe to think of how I appeared in the past.

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